Yesterday I was doing my normal web surfing, one of my favorite sites to check out everyday is CanisHoopus.com. Canis is a Wolves-centric S/B Nation blog that does a great job of mixing news with commentary and opinion. The comment sections on Canis are a user forum unto themselves with many stories topping 100 comments in a day. It was with shock that I read that one of the managers of Canis Hoopus had passed, Tim Allen.
I didn't know Tim. Heck, I hadn't read that much of Canis Hoopus prior to this Wolves off season. Even with that it made me sad for the rest of the day. Especially when I read reports that his Monday evening passing was due to an apparent suicide. I am not sure there is much sadder than a person so out of hope that in their mind the only way out is to take their own life.
Here at STOB, Ken and I also lost a friend this year to suicide. I won't name names. The entire week of our friend's passing, I felt a lump in my stomach that at varying times throughout the day would creep up into my throat. I am sure everyone has the same feelings towards suicide, but to me there is something so much deeper to the sadness that comes with that due to the feeling of it being so unnecessary from the outside looking in.
Reading about Tim Allen the past two days has had very much the same effect on me. Again, even not knowing Tim, I have this feeling of what I, or anyone, could have possibly done on Monday to prevent such an early ending to a talented man's life. Just as I had the same feeling with our friend. I know the answer is "nothing", and the "what ifs" in life are nothing but a depressing distraction that shouldn't have time wasted on them, but nevertheless there they are.
I guess the only thing you can do is let everyone you love and care for know that you are there for them no matter what. If you are one receiving that message, know that your friends and family aren't just saying it, but they truly will be there for you no matter what.
My thoughts and prayers are with Tim Allen's family, friends and the Canis Hoopus extended family, as well as anyone dealing with a suicide.
Love is stronger than death even though it can't stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can't separate people from love.
It can't take away our memories either.
In the end, love is stronger than death.